This page is dedicated to my brother. His name was Clifford Daniel McCoy and he was born on Oct.14th 1968 at University Hospital in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma.I miss you very much and look forward to finding you. Read on for more of our story................... |
"Cleth" was born to Anthony and Marilyn McCoy on 0ct. 14th 1968 in Okc, Ok. He is the youngest of 6 biological children by my father and the only male child. He has a 1/2 sister and brother also. The first time I was to see my brother was Easter Sunday 1968 sadly it was the last time! We were born to a very troubled marriage and a disfunctional home. Soon after seeing my brother our parent's left for Calfornia. After they arrived there, our parent's seperated. Mom only had three of her 9 children with her. My 1/2 sister "Vicky" had been adopted by a maternal aunt, my 1/2 brother "Chuck" by her brother, I was being raised by my faternal grandmother and my sister "Corina" and "Robin" had been placed for adoption by DHS in Ok. Mom had met another man after Dad left. My Mother lived in Sebastopol, California at the time. From account's that Mom and my sister "Marilyn" have told he was abusive and an alcholic. Cleth was physically abused by this man and several of his bones were broken. He was taken to a hospital in Santa Rosa and DHS was again involved. My brother was placed for adoption by Catholic Charity's. His adoption was final April of 1972. My sister "Marilyn" and I have been searching for him now for several year's. I've found our sister's "Corina" and "Robin". It is now my hope, that through this web site we might also find or recieve information now on our brother. This story is far from over, it had just began. Please take a break with me and answer my Web pole, thank you. |
I had been looking for year's! I wrote to "unsolved mystery's" and got the reply that I did not have enough information and they were unable to help me. So the search continued. I signed up with DHS Reunion's in Okc, Ok since that is who she was adopted through. They informed that she had to be searching also and, they would let me know if she ever started searching. The only thing left to do was pray. I recieved a call about a year later from my X-Mother-in-law saying, "she had recieved a letter from DHS reunion's for me". I had negelcted to keep them informed of my new address and phone number and since she was listed as an alternative contact they sent a letter there for me. It was hot summer day when I called to meet with the worker, Jennie S. At this time, I did not know which of my sister's they had found or what the outcome was. When I got there she met with me and gave me a phone number and as much information as she could. I was in tear's! The sister that they had located I had thought had died in a car wreck! (a story i was told at about 12yrs old.) Jennie stayed with me as I made the first call. I was shaking and scared that it was just some joke or going to be bad new's. It seemed so hard for me to breath and I had to sit down. I remember hearing her voice, so excited and such a sweet sound after over 30yr's. I remembered telling her as she and my other sister Corina were taken out of the court room crying that, "I would find them again someday." I was 5 yrs old and they were one and two yrs old, (sissy's little baby's). It was so terrible, I was going to live with my faternal grandmother, my sister Marilyn was going to live with my faternal aunt but no one could take Robin and Corina! After several year's of being left with one family member after another and then going through Foster Care, (what a joke, more emotional abuse was more like it!) we were going to loose each other again! Now that promise was coming true with alot of help. I Found out that my sister had been adopted by a very good christian famiy. Her adoptive father was a minister. We planed to meet and I got busy calling and planning a big reunion with her birth family. The Daily Oklahoman newspaper was called and plan's were made to have a new's crew there when she arrived. The night before her arrival, I recieved a call saying; because Princess Di had just died they were not going to be unable to cover it at all. Most of my faternal family was coming though and plans went on. We made a big banner and put it up saying, "Welcome back to the family, we love you Angel"! She had her husban Ernie and four of her children with her. I now had my sister, a new brother-in-law, three nephew's and a niece! The Lord was truly good that day and joy was overflowing as we all hugged and cryed tears of joy this time. It was a day for tears all over the world as news of one Angel left us (Princess Di) and one returned. The reunion went well and to this day we keep in touch over the phone and with the help of MSN's instant messenger and Yahoo's. Not a day goes by that I forget to be thankful. Now the search would continue for Corina and Cleth. With a little help from friend's and the Lord i would keep that promise............... The story does not end here! Scroll to left to see; Finding Corina! |
Page last updated: 6/2/03
I was sitting at home doing nothing much when i recieved a call from a distant cousin. She said a lady had called and said she was searching for some of the McCoy's. She had mentioned my father and was the adoptive mother of one of my sisters. Corina, it could be none other! Even though it was late i called her right back. We spoke that night and again the next day. She explained that my sister had lost her father and adopted brother whom she was very close to and she didn't want her to be alone should something happen to her. I believe it was a hard thing for her to do, but her love for "Corina" passed that hurdle. She gave me my sister's phone number and to my surprise she only lived about 100 miles from me right in my own state! We spoke on the phone where I found out that a friend of her mothers had found our family name over the internet. It seem's all of my sisters record's had been destroyed by water damage! We planned our reunion for the 8th of May. The night before the reunion was terrible all over Oklahoma. Everyone called asking if we were alright and I stayed next to the TV watching Gary England on channel nine tell where all the tornados were. They were all around my town, one not 10 miles away! One of these tornado was a F5 just 15 miles from my home. When someone would call asking if I wanted to rescheduel the reunion, "I said no way, I've waited 33 years and I don' want to wait a day longer"! I prayed I would have a home come morning, that the Lord would protect everyone in the path of the storm, and that he would watch over everyone that was coming from out of state. The next morning came and my home was still here and everyone was going to be ok. Sure some home's were destroyed but the Lord had done so much on that night. I heard one case where a little baby was pulled from its mother's arm's and found in a tree alive and safe! My oldest son was on the volunteer fire department and they were out all night helping find people and responding to emergency's. At one point he called and said they were driving to respond to a call and a hugh tree that had been uprooted blew right in front of their car on I-35! Family started calling the next morning some were lost because they had to take a different route due to downed tree's or power line's. The Daily Oklahoman called to say due to the F 5 tornado and the other 5 tornado's they were not going to be able to make it. The morning broke and it was gray outside and looked as if at any second more storm's would move right on in. I prayed again that by noon everything would be clear and the sun would shine. Our reunion was to be held outside. By noon it was a beautiful day! The sun was out and food was on the tables and all our family and friend's had arrived safe. Our natural father was unable to come due to surgery. "Corina" has been a joy to get to know. We are close and it doesn't seem as if we really spent that much time with out her. She is very intelligent and pretty and a wonderful cook. She is our short sister (takes after mom haha)! She would just tell ya she got all the brains and left the height to us! My sister has 3 daughter's and they went to Falls Creek with my 3 son's this past year. We plan to get together hopefully again soon and have a girl's weekend out. We had our second reunion at my sisters house and she met her birth father. We sister's had a great time! The only thing that could have made it better is for "Cleth" to have been with us. We won't stop searching untill all members of our family are reunited. |
Growing up alone with my Grandma was far from easy! I suppose you would have to meet her to understand what i've just said. She would have nothing to do with thing's like Electric, Natural gas or Phones. I grew up living like in the old day's. We walked where ever we went and most day's this was over 20 miles a day since we lived in the country and the closest store was a 20 mile trip. I remember at 5yrs old walking I-35 with grammie searching for pop bottle's just so we would have extra money for food. I went to live with her when I was 9 day's old because I was admitted in the hospital with double pheumonia. I almost died. I had been promised to my grandmother before I was even born. I think my grandmothers biggest fear was that someone would coe and take me way too. My grammie is a true animal lover. No dog or critter was left on the street's by her. It was not uncommon for her to own over a dozen animals or more on a regular basis. She is a strong hard headed woman born in MO. She was already 47ys old when i came to live with her. She might have been 4'7" if she streched! She taught me how to work, how to save, and how to survive. We had a garden and what we grew was our main source of food. Meat was something you had on rare occasion's. Granmmie was very strick to say it nicely. I was allowed to attend Church and School and that was it! No sleep over's with friends from school. Her way of catching me because i was tall and fast was to let me run and catch my waist long hair as it blew behind me. She would catch it and put me down on my hinney in a hurry! When i was 15 i moved out of her house to live outside in the yard in a tent! It was so cold that winter that my blanket's froze around me because the tent wall's needed sealed. I stayed anyway because i couldn't stand living inside with all the dog's and junk she collected. I really don't know what was worse; having to eat dog food while in foster care or living in that mess. I went to live with my Step-grandpa when i was 16 and continued high school. I knew the only way out of that life was a good education and my own determination. I got a full time job when i was 17 then a car, and an apartment. I finished school and even went to a community college to study and graduated as a R.M.A.and Medical Secretary. I married my children's father when i was 19 and we had 3 wonderful son's. He and i divorced after over 16yrs of marriage. I spent 5yrs in theraphy after that to learn that I didn't have to put up with any abuse and that none of any of it was my fault; from our past and that the future was mine to make. "Lean not unto your own understanding, "Commit to the Lord what ever you do and your plan's will succeed.(Proverb's 16:3) I promised that my children would never suffer any of the emotional, physical, and sexual abuse i went through. I have fought to try and make sure they grew up emotionally healthy and secure. They know the Lord and they know Mom will alway's have a ear ready to listen to what ever problemb's might arise. My 3 son's and my new granddaughter are my rays of sunshine. I love them with all my heart. Advise i give to my son's is don't ever settle for what other's think of you, prove them wrong believe in yourself! Get a good education, serve the Lord to the best of your ability.Parent's be there for your kid's LOVE them unconditionally, share in their lifes.Our Children need our time our attention and help expecially now as our world is today. Take time out just for them. |
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